Back in January, I did my first ever YouTube Live. As the nerves were settling in, I took a moment to pause and reflect on how far I had come since posting my first YouTube video back in 2020. If you had told me back then that I would ever have the courage to go live on YouTube, I would have said that you had lost your mind! Until recently, I considered myself risk-averse, so what changed? The answer is pretty simple: I invested the necessary time into healing my past trauma.
But Alyssa, healing your trauma sounds intense! Who wants to be reminded and have to relive awful memories? Most of us would rather “keep calm and carry on.” While that motto seems like the safer route, there are several benefits to healing your trauma! Let’s dive into what I feel are the five most essential advantages of healing your trauma.
1. Feeling Validation and Acknowledgment
We often downplay the trauma we have been through as a defense mechanism, telling ourselves and others things like “it was so long ago” or “you know it really wasn’t that bad.” In reality, trauma can negatively impact our lives, regardless of how others interpret its severity.
When I am doing trauma work with a client, we focus on validating what happened to us. We acknowledge that these negative experiences were not okay and that it is okay to feel sad that they occurred.
This validation can help us process and move forward, cultivating a sense of safety that we can live our truth and not force ourselves to downplay past experiences.
2. Acquire New Coping Skills
As we heal our trauma, we develop new coping skills that allow us to manage past, present, and future traumas more efficiently. Not everyone’s coping skills will be the same, but we will find skills that best suit our needs with practices.
One of the most significant benefits of healing our trauma is getting rid of the layering effect. Without healing trauma, we continue to compile trauma on trauma, which adds more and more stress to our plates. Instead, we are now given somewhat of a blank slate, allowing us to remain in the present and worry about the here and now.
In my course Inner Compass Accelerator, we dive deep into the idea of widening our window of tolerance. As our window of tolerance expands, the more stress we can handle and the less fear we develop about experiencing future stressful situations.
3. Understanding How Your Trauma Has Impacted You
Our trauma causes us to see our lives through a distorted lens. This lens often catastrophizes the worst possible outcome in every scenario. As a result, our decision-making changes. We try to “play it safe” rather than take the necessary risks to live the life we desire.
Understanding how our trauma has impacted us changes our perception of what we are capable of achieving. It also unlocks our ability to find more joy in life, ultimately allowing us to live the life we truly want to live. Who knows, after healing your trauma, you may have a career change or find the courage to get back out there and search for your soul mate.
4. Improved Self-Worth
Trauma survivors often blame themselves for their experiences, saying things like “I should have listened to them” or “why didn’t I just stay at home,” etc. This type of thinking is toxic and can lead us to go into a “shame-spiral” that prevent us from chasing after our goals and dreams.
When we heal our trauma, we no longer waste precious moments of our lives shaming ourselves for the painful experiences. This newfound self-love allows us to bounce back from stress.
5. New Sense of Self
By healing your trauma, you will believe that things are possible that you would never have thought about before.
You will no longer find yourself scrolling through social media, seeing other successful people, and thinking, “they have something that I don’t.” Instead, you will say, “I have the same ability to be successful; I just need to nurture it.”
If you believe that you have past traumas that are holding you back and don’t know how to begin resolving them, I have two ways you can work with me at this time. You can either join my self-paced course Inner Compass Accelerator, or schedule one-on-one sessions to work with me directly.